I have great days then just awful ones, back to back. You know those days where you think "finally I have got this down! wahoo!" then the kids pull a day where they are going to beat you down till you are eating chocolate while hiding in the closet waiting for daddy to get home so that you can run to Target to buy that one thing......ALONE! You know what I am talking about. Mind boggling how one little person can do this to an adult!
Well recently I read the latest Jen Hatmaker book "For the Love"and she talks about the balance beam, the one that they use in gymnastics. She says that you can't muddle through life and continually add things to your beam. You will fall off, not be able to move, not preform the way that God wanted you too. You have to be able to recognize what can be on your beam for that phase or season of your life. Currently we cant do home groups with the local church we are at. It doesnt work with our living situation, our moving around, the lack of a babysitter... so off the beam it goes. We know that the life groups is an amazing tool but it just isnt going to work for us right now.
We also cant do sports for the kids. doesnt work. So off the beam.
We can do library activities during the day. On the beam.
We can to youth group for the older two kids. It is so important for us to have them involved in the local church body. On the beam.
Date nights. On the beam! On the beam! On the beam! Even if they are a dinner at home once a week after the littles have gone to bed.
Friday night pizza and movie nights. Family is very important to us, eating dinner together nightly, laughing together. On the beam.
You are in control of your beam. You are the only one who can put things on or remove them. You should not feel guilty if you tell someone, or yourself, no to something. It just doesnt work for this season in your life. It may be put on later but for now it has to stay off. This is so freeing to think about. I am able to say no and not feel bad about it. I am crazy busy and I really can't find the time or the brain energy to add things to my life right now. I have also removed a few stressful and useless things from my beam, it felt amazing! I have to tell ya that I was worried about removing them but once I did I knew it was the right thing to do. Life will go on even when you tell someone no and most people take your no respectfully. And the event or whatever it is will still happen without your amazing self there. I hope this helps you as much as it helped me. And really go read her book!!! love you all